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Okay, never mind. I've changed the visibility settings on my last post about the Mississippi Personhood article, because even though I didn't allow comments on it, I am still getting backlash for it.
I also should have chosen my words more carefully and not used the word "debate"- instead I should have used the word "argue". I am tired of people arguing. I am tired of people using religion to justify misogyny. And I am hella tired of men thinking they have some kind of say over what the hell I do with my uterus.
Now, to get the annoying part out in the open: I AM A WOMAN WHO HAS HAD AN ABORTION.
There, it's out, if you want to unfriend me or never speak to me again, feel free. If you want to tell me I am going to go to hell, you can try, but honestly, I don't think that's up to anyone here on this earth.
There's a reason I am so passionately pro-choice, and that is because MY CHOICE I made when I was nineteen years old saved my life. I am not exaggerating. I am not making it up. I am so painfully, deadly serious. When I was 19, the birth control method I was using failed and I became pregnant. I had an abortion at six weeks. The man I was with at the time was 22 years my senior and extremely abusive. Had I not been able to make the choice I did, I would not be here now, typing this entry. Because if I had been forced to carry that child to term, I never would have been able to truly escape that horrible person. I would have had to deal with him and his special brand of crazy for the rest of my life, living in fear of the day when he'd snap and finally come to make all his death threats a reality. (I didn't even realize how much I still feared the idea of him showing up unexpectedly with one of his illegal "no papers" guns until I discovered he'd died a couple of years ago- and I finally relaxed.)
Did I "enjoy" my abortion? No. It was horrible and hellish, and I could never go through one again. Was it "easy" or for "convenience"? Definitely not. It was extremely painful and quite frankly, pretty terrifying. (They make sure to scare you a lot before you have one. Lots of graphic videos about how if you so much as twitch during the procedure, you'll have your uterus perforated/you'll bleed to death and they won't be liable for it, since it's an elective procedure.) Do I feel bad about it? Yes, quite often, especially now that my husband and I are struggling to conceive. Am I ashamed of it? No. I just don't talk about it much, because it's my uterus and thus my business.
I'm not going to change my mind about being pro-choice. Therefore, I am uninterested in arguments about the subject. You can have your opinion, but honestly, I really don't care to hear it.
I also should have chosen my words more carefully and not used the word "debate"- instead I should have used the word "argue". I am tired of people arguing. I am tired of people using religion to justify misogyny. And I am hella tired of men thinking they have some kind of say over what the hell I do with my uterus.
Now, to get the annoying part out in the open: I AM A WOMAN WHO HAS HAD AN ABORTION.
There, it's out, if you want to unfriend me or never speak to me again, feel free. If you want to tell me I am going to go to hell, you can try, but honestly, I don't think that's up to anyone here on this earth.
There's a reason I am so passionately pro-choice, and that is because MY CHOICE I made when I was nineteen years old saved my life. I am not exaggerating. I am not making it up. I am so painfully, deadly serious. When I was 19, the birth control method I was using failed and I became pregnant. I had an abortion at six weeks. The man I was with at the time was 22 years my senior and extremely abusive. Had I not been able to make the choice I did, I would not be here now, typing this entry. Because if I had been forced to carry that child to term, I never would have been able to truly escape that horrible person. I would have had to deal with him and his special brand of crazy for the rest of my life, living in fear of the day when he'd snap and finally come to make all his death threats a reality. (I didn't even realize how much I still feared the idea of him showing up unexpectedly with one of his illegal "no papers" guns until I discovered he'd died a couple of years ago- and I finally relaxed.)
Did I "enjoy" my abortion? No. It was horrible and hellish, and I could never go through one again. Was it "easy" or for "convenience"? Definitely not. It was extremely painful and quite frankly, pretty terrifying. (They make sure to scare you a lot before you have one. Lots of graphic videos about how if you so much as twitch during the procedure, you'll have your uterus perforated/you'll bleed to death and they won't be liable for it, since it's an elective procedure.) Do I feel bad about it? Yes, quite often, especially now that my husband and I are struggling to conceive. Am I ashamed of it? No. I just don't talk about it much, because it's my uterus and thus my business.
I'm not going to change my mind about being pro-choice. Therefore, I am uninterested in arguments about the subject. You can have your opinion, but honestly, I really don't care to hear it.
